How to Love Yourself and Be Confident – My Story About Self Awareness & Saying “I love you”

How to Love Yourself and Be Confident – My Story About Self Awareness & Saying “I love you”


– This is the story about a paper airplane and learning to love yourself. (inspirational music) Hey everyone, my name is Nate and I like to think of
myself as an art curator and a literary connoisseur
but the truth is, I’m just a nerd who likes to tell stories. So if that’s your kind of thing, please hit that subscribe button below. So the other day, I was taking
a walk in San Francisco. It was a beautiful day. The sun was out. There was a soft breeze and I came across this beautiful little garden tucked into, in a residential area. The garden was full of roses
and sunflowers and tulips and there was a bench, there
was a white-painted bench. So I sat down on the bench for a minute just to close my eyes and
feel the breeze in my face and the smell of the beautiful flowers. And when I was done I was so excited, I was so happy that when I
started walking down the hill and I started gaining
speed, if you’re familiar with San Francisco, you know
hills are basically like this. So I was gaining speed and
as I was gaining speed, I realized I was a paper airplane and I lifted up my wings and
started balancing in the breeze and the breeze was in my face. It was coming across my wings and my chest and I was gaining more and more speed. And I was balancing in the wind and I was smiling and then I realized there was a street at
the bottom of this hill. And this street had a red light and cars were zooming by, zoom zoom, and I’m like uh oh this could be bad and so I took a sharp
left turn and my wings were vibrating but I made it. I turned the corner and
as I turned the corner I started slowing down
and I gently touched down on the sidewalk. By the time I reached the sixth grade, I started developing a
terrible sense of self-worth. You see I was bullied mercilessly. It was my first year in a public school. I was short. I had a really huge glasses, gold-rimmed, I mean they took up half my face. It was super nerdy. And so of course I was teased. I was teased mercilessly and
so I became even more quiet, more socially awkward. I used to sit in the back of the class not even raising my hand
to go to the bathroom. I used to like squirm in my chair because I couldn’t raise my hand because then I would be visible. By the time I reached high
school it just became so intense. I was full of so much
anxiety and no self-worth that at a school dance I sat in the corner replaying in my mind walking up to a girl and her saying yes. When I went home that night, I punched my pillow numerous times and started crying ’cause I hated myself for not having the nerve
to go up and do that. So I started comparing myself to others, to the popular kids, to
the kids who were laughing at the quad during lunch. They were happy and I wasn’t, so there was something wrong with me. By the time I reached 18,
I found myself at a party and alcohol was being
served and I took a sip and I took another sip, and
finally I had this courage to not just talk to people
but to be loud and boisterous, to be that person I always
thought was the happy person. And so I continued to drink more and drinking led to more drinking. Eventually leading to drugs. Now we all know where that story ends. It’s never a good place to be. And it all started from
no sense of self-worth and from comparing who I thought I was to how other people were. They were happy I was not. I need to be them. Carl Jung once said, “Do
not compare, do not measure. No other way is like yours. All other ways deceive and tempt you. You must fulfill the way that is in you.” In her book, The Crossroads
of Should and Must, the artist and author Elle Luna describes a difference
between what we should do and what we must do. What we should do are external
pressures placed on us by society, by friends, by family. What we must do is who
we are as an individual, deep down inside, how are soul resonates. Now it’s human nature to
listen to what we should do to please others, so we
end up choosing that path. We end up choosing to
be a medical student, we end up choosing to take that job. We end up choosing to go to
school and study that major. When I was at that school dance and replaying in my mind
walking up to that girl saying, do you want to dance? And dancing with her
and smiling as a result. That was doing what I
thought I should be doing. I’m at a school dance. I should be asking a girl to dance. I should be enjoying myself
because I was dancing with another girl. I wasn’t doing what I must do. What I must do probably to be honest, wasn’t even going to the
dance in the first place because that’s not who I am. I’m not a gregarious person who thrives in a social environment like that. I thrive when I’m reading. I thrive on taking a walk by myself. I thrive when I’m a paper
airplane coasting down a hill in San Francisco on a bright sunny day. Thank you so much for watching. I can’t tell you how much I
appreciate you taking the time out of your life and please please, if you like this kind of
thing, if you like this video, hit that subscribe
button and I will see you in the next video. I love you, I love you, I love you.